The Integrated Man

April 30, 2010

Putting my money where my mouth is……..

Filed under: Identity,Life,Life And Death,The Meaning of Life — Integrated Man @ 11:42 pm

I’ve been touting the benefits of self improvement for a while now.  I really am in the process of designing a better life and fashioning myself into the kind of person I want to be.  Well, I recently took a very big step.  I kicked my renter out of the house.  I don’t need his rent money I don’t want him around.  Why is this significant?  Here’s the story:

George and I have have been tight for close to 17 years.  Tight.  Sometimes realtionships carry on out of habit after the person who was so special to us has completely dissappeared.   George has been in and out of trouble over the years.  He was a spoiled brat with an upper middle class upbringing fast on his way to becoming a lawyer.  But he never had it in him.  as soon as George got to college and out from under the umbrella of his overprotective father, he crashed and burned.  He made it one semester at Michigan State University and flunked out.  the guy was out of gas from the start. 

So he comes homes and gets a job and a local comic sci-fi store.  That’s where he and I became friends.  He was always a lot fun.  Lazy, unmotivated and undependable, but that didn’t matter to me at the time.   Well I moved to LA, worked with the high and mighty for a while and five years later moved home to marry the love of my life.  In the meantime:

George is diagnosed bipolar.  Tells his father that he hates him in a family therapy session.  His father dies that night of a massive brain hemmorage or something.  George continues sliding downhill, his stepmother completely cuts him off.  In this time, George smokes more and more pot.  Two other friends cut him off at this point. 

Meanwhile, I come home from LA like nothings happened and we’re friends again.  Well, i get busy getting married and stuff and fall out of touch.  During this time, George, in a paranoid episode, gets into a fistfight with his stepfather and goes to the Macomb County Jail for nearly nine months.  It’s from here that he gets back in touch with me after some time out of touch (again).  Silly me, just keep giving him chance after chance.  He comes off as a nice guy and snow’s alot of people. 

Getting to the point, I’m going to skip alot of the story.  It’s 2008 and I’m getting divorced.  It is the worst experience of my life and George, to be fair, is there for me.  almost from the beginning he’s offering to move into my basement and pay me rent to help me out.  She walked away and left me with the house after the divorce. 

I didn’t want him to live with me.  I knew better.  He’s a slob.  He’s unmotivated.  He’s a bad influence to be around.  Well there were a couple of mitigating circumstances.

  1. He got social security.  As pathetic as that is, at least I was garuanteed he’d always have the rent money every month.
  2. He got accepted to a very prestigiuous school.  He’s an artist, and I got him back into his painting.  He got accepted to the College for Creative Studies in Detroit on a full ride.  Not easily done.

So I figured he’s moving up in the world and he’s be busy this will be managable.  Well, the whole summer he sat in his underwear in the basement.  I was already ready to kill him.  He finally starts going to school, goes for a month, cries and bitches about how hard it is and stops going.  And starts sleeping all day.  And I mean all day.  So I put him on notice around christmas time and he swears he’s going to give it another go.  He does.  Same thing, back to bed all day.  Slob.  Unmotivated.

I kicked his ass out.  You are the sum total of your five best friends and I can’t have him factoring into my GPA anymore.  This is my first week of having my house back to myself and being free of him.  So far so great……….

April 22, 2010

Book Review: Doc Love’s The System – The Dating Dictionary

Filed under: Uncategorized — Integrated Man @ 1:49 pm

“The first man in 6000 years to understand women.”  That is the claim that Doc, AKA Tom Hodges, makes on the cover of this 200 page tome.  “The only course that truly answers the question:  Why does a woman choose to stay with one man versus another?”

I believe Doc Love, AKA Tom Hodges, has made good on these claims.  First the facts:  This 201 page paperback book is not available from any retailer, it can only be bought direct at  And you’re going to pay a pretty penny for the system $99.00 shipped in the US.  With that you get the book and two cd audios, one of a live recording of Doc and a seminar and the other is a radio interview.

The basic precept is that of interest level.  Hers, not yours.  Doc’s entire system is based around using confidence control and challenge to up her interest level.  The woman’s high interest in the man, is the life blood of a long term relationship – the man’s interest is not that important.  His interest in her should be a little lower than her interest in him.  As a 36 year old divorcee I can attest to the genius of all this.

As a side note, the book is really set like a dictionary.  With terms like acceptance, counteroffer, dancing – going in alphabetical order.  Each entry takes a slightly different approach to put forth the principles.  In fact the only criticism I would really have is I think he should wrap it up with bullet points at the end.  Sort of a checklist.  Maybe I’ll do that myself upon my second reading of this material.

This system is about discipline and making her fall in love with you.  This IS NOT pick-up.  Bottom line:

This is the best relationship guide for men that I have ever seen.  HIGHEST RECOMMENDATION.

April 18, 2010

Here’s what I’m going to do……

Filed under: Identity,Life,Money,Sex and Love,The Meaning of Life — Integrated Man @ 1:53 am

Well it’s been quite a year.  I’m in great shape – starting to act like James Bond and getting laid.  I’ve kicked out my loser roomate and can’t wait to be alone – one more week.  I’m working on self improvement in a few different areas:

  1. law of attraction/wealth.  I have a new Kevin Trudea CD set called “Your Wish Is Your Command”.  I will be listeneing to that over and over and reflecting on my ideas and insights. 
  2. Pick up/ sex.  I’ve got alot going on here.  Alot of materials and insights to integrate.   Doc Love’s System, RSD bluepringt decoded and flawless natural, David Shade’s materials and more. 

I will be taking raw observational notes on what I learn and I will be making my own commentary.  I intend to post all of that here.  This writing we help with my learning.  This is a new beginning………

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